Not long into Mistress Dispeller, a quietly jaw-dropping new documentary from director Elizabeth Lo, the film’s eponymous character lays out her thesis for ridding marriages of troublesome extra lovers. “When someone becomes a mistress,” she says, “it’s because they feel they don’t deserve complete love. She’s the one who needs our help the most.” Wang Zhenxi, a mistress dispeller based in north-central China’s Henan province, is one of a growing number of self-styled professionals who earn a living by intervening in people’s marriages – to “dispel” them of intruders. “I…
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Mistress Dispeller review – goodness and vulnerability shine through in candid love triangle doc
An early-middle-aged woman with a bright smile and a nonthreateningly frumpy dress sense, Wang Zhenxi has an extremely specific set of skills. Part therapist, part spy, part master strategist, she helps spouses expunge pesky mistresses and lovers from their partners’ lives, hopefully restoring monogamous harmony in the process. She’s called a mistress dispeller, which sounds very awkward in English and yet that’s a perfectly apt description for the cleansing process that Ms Wang performs. Somehow, director Elizabeth Lo – who must have some killer persuasive skills of her own –…
‘Now it’s about personal happiness’: popular Granny Wang dating show belies China’s plummeting marriage rate
The crowd is sweltering under a red and gold awning, but Granny Wang has them rapt. Packed into the space in front of the 62-year-old’s small stage, and spilling out on to the wooden bleachers above, hundreds of people have gathered to hear Granny Wang – real name Zhao Mei – play matchmaker to young men and women at a daily show in a theme park in Kaifeng, an ancient city in central China’s Henan province. One man who volunteers to be set up comes on stage and tells Zhao…
For better or for worse: is the decline in marriage actually good for relationships? | Devorah Baum
One of the curious things about marriage is the role it’s played in embedding commonly held views about normality. Married people are generally considered normal people. As such, they have possessed inordinate power to dictate the terms of normality in a way that single people rarely can. And yet marriage, clearly, isn’t for everyone. Plenty of people have no desire to do it. Plenty of others have done it and haven’t liked it. The stats only corroborate this. Fewer people over the years have been getting married, while the stresses…
State-sponsored matchmaking app launched in China
For single people, dating fatigue is a universal phenomenon. Hours of swiping left can lead to despair at the potential matches in your area. One city in Jiangxi, a province in eastern China, reckons that it has come up with a solution for the lovelorn or love-weary: a state-sponsored matchmaking service. Guixi, a city of about 640,000 people, has launched an app that uses data on single residents to build a matchmaking platform. The app is known as “Palm Guixi” and includes a platform for organising blind dates, according to…